You see me with my tired eyes and eyebags

That concealer cannot hide

You see that it means I can’t be bothered

You don’t know that I stayed up all night with a teething baby

Are you judging me?

 

You see me with my hair in a ponytail

Sweaty loose hairs on my forehead

You see that it means I can’t be bothered

You don’t know that I’ve just spent two hours playing with the kids

Are you judging me?

 

You see me in an old tee shirt and yoga pants

Maybe a stain or two on it

You see that it means I can’t be bothered

You don’t know that I haven’t had time to shop for new things and that I have a baby who spits up on me

Are you judging me?

 

You see me in my most comfortable footwear (hello flip flops)

You see me with no makeup

You see that it means I can’t be bothered

You don’t know that I can’t handle a toddler and a baby while wearing wedges and that I don’t actually want to wear makeup

Are you judging me?

 

You see a woman who doesn’t look as chic as you

You see a woman who looks like she forgot how to dress

You see a woman who’s allowing her toddler candy in a grocery store

You see a woman who doesn’t wear makeup

Are you judging her?

 

I see a mother who does get up and showered and throws on what’s comfortable and practical

I see a mother who puts most thought into her children and how to give them the best day possible, every single day

I see a mother who tries to make sure her pantry is stocked, dinner gets cooked and children get out and about, so what if bribery is involved

I see a mother who’s confident in her looks, her looks as a mother

Are you still judging?

 

It is so very easy to look at someone and pass judgment. Yes, we should hold ourselves to higher standards, we should always try to feel/ look/ do better. Because when we are better people, we are better parents. But to each her own. Allow each other the freedom to come to a parenting path, a self-loving path, at their own pace. Parenting is hard enough without mud slinging.

 

This here? This is a judgement-free zone. Take your judging elsewhere.

This post is inspired by The Momalog – read her post here about bitchy mommy bloggers.

 

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