How Love Works

February 27, 2012 By

“Love works in mysterious ways.”

Does it?

I don’t agree.

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To me, love works …….

… when the husband drags himself out of bed every Sunday after a long week, to make me French toast.

… when the toddler comes over and hugs my head.

… when the husband tells me random news snippets he thinks I’ll find interesting.

… when the toddler looks up from whatever he’s doing and gives me a big smile, just because.

…. when the husband watches Project Runway with me (and made me promise I won’t tell anyone, oops).

… when the toddler says “I you!” (I love you, in Monkey-speak)

… when the husband pats my belly and whispers to the Scrumplet.

… when the toddler gently pats my belly and repeats after me, “Baby!”

… when the husband and I hold hands at the supermarket.

… when the toddler puts his tiny hand in mine, just before he falls asleep.

Love is….

…. hello and goodbye kisses.

…. afternoon phone calls just to talk.

…. evening walks.

…. conversations about our boys.

…. planning our future.

…. toddler kisses.

…. playing trains together.

…. sharing an ice cream.

… bedtime cuddles.

Love is….

…. not that mysterious.

…. the simple things.

…. quiet gestures.

…. a commitment.

…. soul-bindingly deep.

…. comfortable and warm.

…. perfect and effortless with the right people.

Love works in the smallest ways, weaving itself into everyday life, intertwining one experience to the next, yet it takes your breath away like a punch to the gut, when it washes over every fibre of your being.

Love works when one makes room for the other in this world full of distractions and noise.

Yes, love is not that mysterious. Not to me.

What does love mean to you?

 

 

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  1. Missy | Literal Mom says:
    February 27, 2012 at 10:45 am

    Just beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
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  2. Jen Has A Pen says:
    February 27, 2012 at 10:47 am

    This is so good, Alison. I loved the poetry and how each phrase blended in to the next. I couldn’t agree with you more.
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  3. Jamie says:
    February 27, 2012 at 11:53 am

    Smiled the whole time I was reading!
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  4. Olivier says:
    February 27, 2012 at 12:10 pm

    I agree with you. It is the small things that we do for the special people in life that shows our love for them.
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  5. tracy@sellabitmum says:
    February 27, 2012 at 12:22 pm

    Aw, such good warm feelings. xoxo

  6. Leah aka FFPMaMMa says:
    February 27, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    Love is action, not just emotion.
    Love is respecting your husband and husbands pursuing your wives.

    Beautiful Alison. I hope it encourages many who read it.
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  7. Elaine says:
    February 27, 2012 at 12:48 pm

    You nailed it, girl. Love is ALL those things… and just think, your heart is about to expand even more! :)
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  8. Amanda
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    February 27, 2012 at 1:26 pm

    Yep, that pretty much sums it up! Thanks for sharing this, Alison.
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  9. SarahB @ Not Just a Baker says:
    February 27, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    Great post. I love it. To me love is my husband putting up with my crazy and my 4 year old coming in, from another room, just to give me a hug and kiss, for no reason at all. :)
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  10. Christine@TheAums says:
    February 27, 2012 at 5:03 pm

    This was perfect bedtime reading…going to bed with warm fuzzy feelings. Remember those “Love is” comics? You should totally do a “Love works” theme.
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    • Alison@Mama Wants This says:
      February 28, 2012 at 2:42 pm

      Thank you Christine! I don’t know if I can do a series, but thank you for your confidence :)

  11. Tinne from Tantrums and Tomatoes says:
    February 27, 2012 at 9:26 pm

    This put a smile on my face. Thank you for that!
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  12. My Inner Chick
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    February 27, 2012 at 9:52 pm

    —when the husband watches Project Runway with me—

    Mama, you are blessed. Mr. Liverpool would NEVER watch PR w/ me!! & I Loooove that show, cuz i’m in love w/ Tim Gunn.

    Happy Monday. x
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  13. Jaime says:
    February 27, 2012 at 11:00 pm

    What a sweet post. This makes me realize I need to work on my marriage. I need to re-figure out what love means.
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    • Alison@Mama Wants This says:
      February 28, 2012 at 2:47 pm

      Marriage is constant work. It’s so easy to put that aside when we’re so preoccupied with our kids. The good thing is, it’s easy to start with small simple steps to improve our relationships. Good luck!

  14. Talking Thirty says:
    February 27, 2012 at 11:06 pm

    Loved this post. So true and so beautiful! To me, love is the warm feeling I get when I see my husband and our 8-month-old baby boy eagerly greet and nuzzle each other after a long work-day apart.
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  15. Stephanie Stearns Dulli says:
    February 27, 2012 at 11:26 pm

    So sweet! I love when Boss wants me to snuggle with him and sing songs. It makes my heart full!
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  16. Lady Jennie says:
    February 28, 2012 at 12:23 am

    I love to see all the snippets from your lives and to see how happy you are.

    (And my husband watches Downton Abbey with me). :-)
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  17. grace says:
    February 28, 2012 at 1:01 am

    I had to laugh at this b/c I recently got my hubs HOOKED on Project Runway Season 9… we had just watched the second-to-last epi the night before I had to leave for a trip and he said, “do you mind if I watch the season finale while your gone?” hahahaha. yes! I got him roped in…ahhhh…now that’s love. =)

  18. Katie E
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     says:
    February 28, 2012 at 1:13 am

    This is so sweet, Alison. I don’t know that there’s anything I can add to your list, but I agreed with almost everyone. It is the simple things.
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  19. Ado says:
    February 28, 2012 at 1:52 am

    Wow I’m impressed that your husband makes you French Toast on Sunday mornings AND watches Project Runway with you. He’s a keeper! Loved this post.
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  20. Jocelyn | ScooterMarie says:
    February 28, 2012 at 2:30 am

    Oh how I love this! Simply beautiful, and I agree with all of it.

  21. Jaime says:
    February 28, 2012 at 2:41 am

    There is so much about love that is easy. My husband and I have been together for almost 17 years (half of my life! Yikes!) and we read each other so well. We know what the other likes and dislikes. And the love that I have for my daughter is the most spiritual thing I have ever felt. Loving her is the easiest thing I have ever done.
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  22. Jessica says:
    February 28, 2012 at 3:01 am

    This is such a lovely post! Love is the simple things. Love is kind. It humbles you and gives and gives while expecting nothing of you in return.

  23. Mary Trunk says:
    February 28, 2012 at 3:10 am

    Love is when my 10 year old (tween!!!) daughter barely says a word to me all morning and absolutely nothing during the drive to school and just before she gets out of the car she leans forward, rests her head on my shoulder and says, “Can I sit here for a minute longer?” Thanks for the post!

  24. Kimberly says:
    February 28, 2012 at 3:13 am

    Beautiful post, Alison! It’s the simple things, yet completely overwhelming.
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  25. JDaniel4's Mom says:
    February 28, 2012 at 3:42 am

    You captured wonderfully how the simple things make a heart flutters and a mom want to tear up.
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  26. Jessica says:
    February 28, 2012 at 5:01 am

    Love is the little things and the big things and everything in between.
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  27. Kimberly says:
    February 28, 2012 at 5:22 am

    Exactly this.
    So beautiful Alison.
    xoxo
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  28. Elena says:
    February 28, 2012 at 5:24 am

    This is such a pretty post, Alison. Love is a wonderful thing.
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  29. Tonya says:
    February 28, 2012 at 5:41 am

    This warmed by heart! Love is all of this and so much more. :)
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  30. Lola says:
    February 28, 2012 at 5:53 am

    I love this post, Alison.
    And I totally agree that love does not work in mysterious ways.
    Love is not mysterious.
    It can be very complicated (like life itself, children, and marriage) but it’s not mysterious.
    Unless you live in a romance novel.
    Then it’s mysterious. And sexy…
    with orgasms ALL. THE. TIME.

  31. Mirjam says:
    February 28, 2012 at 6:01 am

    I did not have the time to read a single blog post today. But right before I turned of the light to go to sleep, I decided to read just one post..
    I’m so glad I did, wonderful post Alison, just wonderful! (Yawn, I’m going to sleep now!)
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  32. Runnermom-jen says:
    February 28, 2012 at 6:10 am

    Ooh, I LOVE head hugs…they’re the best. And you are so right..it’s the little things, the simple things. Wonderful post, friend :)
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  33. Julia says:
    February 28, 2012 at 6:29 am

    Oh how beautiful! Sometimes, I get frustrated that our lives are no longer romantic, but then I remember all of these little things that make up our lives, and that is the true meaning of love after all. Thank you for a beautiful post!
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  34. Kiddothings says:
    February 28, 2012 at 8:46 am

    That’s so true – love is the simple things. It only becomes a mystery when your spouse does something stupid that makes you question why you love him.
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  35. Sandra says:
    February 28, 2012 at 8:54 am

    Awww, this was lovely! I love how you’re so grateful for all the little things. I need to take a page from you book, I’m cranky as hell these days. Love your preggers pick by the way, you sure do know how to rock the bump pretty lady!
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  36. elizabeth-flourishinprogress says:
    February 28, 2012 at 9:40 am

    To me, love means my husband loving me even when I don’t love myself.

    Always, in all ways.

    P.S. Girl, you are looking GOOD for 30 weeks!!
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  37. Leslie says:
    February 28, 2012 at 10:16 am

    What a great way to describe love. Far beyond that rush of emotion at the beginning of a relationship; love can be found in the little things.
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  38. Erica M says:
    February 28, 2012 at 10:39 am

    I you, Alison! What a sweet post.
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  39. Kristen says:
    February 28, 2012 at 10:43 am

    Love to me is when my husband and my girls reach for my hand at the most random times when I least expect it.
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  40. Kristin @ What She Said says:
    February 28, 2012 at 11:00 am

    For me, love is my increasingly squirmy, rambunctious, independent toddler tugging on my leg while I’m chopping vegetables and saying, “Cuddle, Mommy.” That actually happened tonight. And my heart melted a little. And so I put down the knife, led her to the couch, and we cuddled. Dinner could wait.
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    • Alison@Mama Wants This says:
      February 28, 2012 at 3:55 pm

      Aw, that’s so sweet. Yes, dinner can wait. Love and the children cannot. Should not.

  41. Christine @ Love, Life, Surf says:
    February 28, 2012 at 12:55 pm

    I love this post. It gave me the warm fuzzies. I think that my favorite is “when the toddler comes over and hugs my head.” A close second for me is when my 2-year old son comes up to me and asks in his itty bitty voice, “Mommy, can you come play with me?” Love.
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  42. Natalie says:
    February 28, 2012 at 9:09 pm

    I agree 100%! You described love perfectly :)
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  43. Brittany {Mommy Words}
    Twitter: BrittanyVandy
     says:
    February 28, 2012 at 9:42 pm

    I loved this post and I agree that there are so many little things that make up love. But here’s the catch for me. It can be mysterious. Yes, my husband and kids do wonderful little things and they make up our love but right now, there are mysteries to our love as we struggle with the big decision, as you know.

    Sometimes it is not comfortable or easy to love. It can be hard and confusing and coming out the other end makes it worth it. This is especially true with our partners. We picked them right? Unlike our kids, who we are responsible for, love with a partner can be confusing at times.

    I thought that the post was beautiful. I just wanted to share my view on love that sometimes becomes complicated by life.

    xo
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    • Alison@Mama Wants This says:
      February 28, 2012 at 10:17 pm

      I love your perspective, Brittany, and you’re absolutely right. I do know where you’re coming from and I can see the struggle you speak of. Life does complicate everything, doesn’t it? xo

  44. Galit Breen says:
    February 28, 2012 at 9:55 pm

    Le sigh.

    It really is the simple things, isn’t it?

    The happy, the willing to push through the not-so-happy, the I’d rather be right here.

    One more time: Le sigh.

    (Lovely post.)
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  45. Charlotte says:
    February 28, 2012 at 10:56 pm

    Oh, wow. I just love this so much. But this is my absolutely favorite and gave me goosebumps:

    “…when the husband pats my belly and whispers to the Scrumplet.” <This reduces me to a puddle of mush. what a beautiful thing/feeling :)
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  46. Kir says:
    February 28, 2012 at 11:34 pm

    this is perfect…just like LOVE is…wow, Alison this truly touched me today. I feel this way about LOVE too, that it’s not mysterious or work behind the scenes, it’s front and center, out in the open for all to see and hear most times. It makes everything better.

    I loved this.
    xo
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  47. Carol Webb says:
    February 29, 2012 at 10:12 am

    Love is certainly those little yet precious moments that bring you together with another. Love your well said thoughts. Thank you.
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  48. Bruna
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     says:
    March 1, 2012 at 1:35 pm

    Love as you describe it is the kind of love real people feel. Moms. Dads. Spouses. Happy people. The simple things bring about love.
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    • Alison@Mama Wants This says:
      March 1, 2012 at 1:45 pm

      Life is complicated enough – Love has to be simple for me or I wouldn’t be able to handle it :)

  49. Twisted Domestic Goddess says:
    March 4, 2012 at 10:08 pm

    Stupid pregnancy hormones totally made me blubber on this post..you captured LOVE perfectly!
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  50. Greta says:
    March 5, 2012 at 8:27 am

    Aw! Love means something different to everyone. But it’s magical when you find the person that makes you want to write a list a mile long about the ways you show each other your love.